I just have to ask this question because i’m truly appalled at the way
women ladies treat each other! We act like we are in a perpetual competition with each other, even with people you don’t know so well, total strangers too!………seriously, what gives?!
That’s how some time ago, i was at a cosmetics store to purchase some items when this lady walked in. She knew the store owner, and they chatted amicably. One story led to another, and the lady who came to pick up her body cream was narrating to the store owner about how one of her neighbors who wasn’t as well-to-do as she was ( i deduced that from the impression she gave while telling the story) asked her to please tell her the name of the body cream she uses. She laughed with the store owner, asking her how on earth she could be using the same body cream with that neighbor of hers…..she laughed again. She made it sound like an abomination, and i was cringing inwardly. If she had told her neighbor the name of her cream, and if her neighbor went ahead and bought it and used it too, would she die? As in would she perish?! What’s the deal?
Many women would rather have their finger nails broken one by one than assist their fellow woman…….tufiakwa! I remember when i was still preggers and the fuel scarcity was still on, the male fuel attendants were waaaay nicer to me than the ladies. I vividly remember one particular lady attendant who looked at me with disdain just because i asked her if i could see her manager so that i could plead with him to sell fuel to me. Yes, she ‘eyed’ me and my huge belly and didn’t even reply me at all. I only needed to see the manager because after waiting in line for about 3 hours, they suddenly announced that they were closing for the day…..and it was almost my turn oooooo! I wanted to sit on the floor and wail. That’s why i humbly went to the lady to ask to see the manager, and she eyed me with disdain and went to sit down without saying as much as one word to me. I’m sure that if there was yam water nearby, she would have poured it on me too…lool!
Someone said that women act that way towards one another out of jealousy. Regarding the fuel incident i mentioned above, someone reasoned that perhaps she was angry that i was preggers while she wasn’t even married, and i have a car while she still jumps buses so that’s why she chose to give me that icy treatment…..hmnnnnn….. i no sabi ooo!
The male fuel attendants treated me better. I remember queuing to buy fuel one particular day at MRS petrol station on 22 road, a fuel tanker was still discharging its contents, so we were all waiting on the queue. I think my car was like the 40th or so. I was chatting on my blackberry with a friend who suggested that if they refused to sell fuel to those with jerry-cans, i should come down from my car and go shove my pregnant belly in their faces (LMAO!). So when it actually looked like they wouldn’t sell to the jerry-can customers, i meekly got out of my car and went to meet one tall hausa guy i saw giving instructions. I greeted him and said:
“Please, i need to buy fuel in my jerry-cans”
Immediately this man saw me and my belly, his face looked like i had just confessed to homicide.
“Madam, what are you doing here?! Where is your car? Please go and drive in through the other gate. The tanker is still discharging, once they are done, we would sell to you”
Chei! My heart leapt for joy! I didn’t even have to say the speech i had prepared in my mind about how the weather was soo hot, how i had 2 other kids, and how i didn’t want us to die of heat…lool! I drove out of the queue and into the petrol station with immediate alacrity, and i was eventually the first person they sold to!
If the manager was a woman, she would have asked me pointedly if it was Jesus i was carrying in my womb. She would have told me that pregnancy wasn’t new under the sun, and eventually, they wouldn’t have sold to me. Lubbish!
This one is still very fresh in my memory, last Friday, i rushed down to Agboju market to buy stuff for the week. Zuri was asleep, and i asked my househelp to please keep an eye on her, but i knew that i still had to hurry ‘cos she's recently become picky about those that carry her. She doesn’t even let my househelp carry her…and if she does carry her, Zuri will cry non-stop. So bearing that in mind, i hurried with my shopping and was rushing home when two police women jumped in front of my car at Agboju junction, saying that i wasn’t wearing my seatbelt. She asked for my license, and i told her that it was in my purse which i forgot at home. They asked me to open the car and one of them entered. I explained to her why i was in a hurry, and i told her that i was worried about my baby at home, but this woman insisted that i drive down to the station to write statement (statement ndi mmuo, ko statement ndi mmadu?). I refused ooo. I pleaded and pleaded with her, but all my pleas fell on deaf ears. I even faked tears…..whoosai! I had no cash on me, but do you know that this woman made me part with my hard-earned 5k? What’s more…she followed me to the ATM too! The thing pained me ehn, but i had to settle her and go home ‘cos of Zuri. If not for my baby, i was prepared to follow her anywhere. If it was a police man that stopped me, he would have let me go since, but since women are usually wicked to each other, this lady held me ransom till i gave her 5k. Money that i would have used to buy 3 Ardell ‘whispies’ lashes. On my way home, my fake tears turned to real. Mtcheeew!
Women would never divulge truthful and helpful information to their fellow women. Are we our own worst enemies? I remember seeing a very beautiful picture of the job a colleague did on her client’s face, i pinged her asking her what foundation and eyebrow pencil she used, and do you know what she said? Lol!. Yes, that’s what she said…she said ’LOL!’. I was just perplexed.
Tara Fela-Durotoye once said “Girls compete with each other, women empower one another”. I totally agree with her.
If you are one of these women i’m talking about, then i feel so sorry for you. Why for heaven’s sake are you hoarding information? Do you want to use it to cook soup? What gives? Please be civil to your fellow women, empower each other, share information, help each other out. It wouldn’t kill you….rather, you’ll be the better for it. As for me, i loooove to share information. If i discover something wonderful, i start itching to share immediately, no matter what it is.
Biko do you know why women are usually antagonistic towards each other? And are men also like that to each other? Pray….tell!